With anti-Asian hate in U.S. rising, parents grapple over whether to talk to their children

After eight people were killed in the shootings at three Atlanta-area spas, including six women of Asian descent, Stefany Stuber sat down to talk to her seven-year-old daughter, Olivia. “I really felt like this was a time for me to speak up and address the situation, address the fact that this has been happening forever, forever and a day,” said bartender Stuber, a 40-year-old Korean-American who lives in Philadelphia. As a parent, she has strived to celebrate her and her daughter's Korean heritage but also be open with Olivia about racism and discrimination. "I want her to understand things because I think, at least for me, understanding things is the first step to coming up with solutions," Stuber said.

Across the United States, Asian-Americans and Asians reeled at the news of the shooting spree. here Authorities said the 21-year-old white male suspect told them he had a sex addiction and that the attacks may not have had a racist motivation. But after a year in which reports of hate crimes against Asians, regardless of their national origin, skyrocketed, the bloodshed caused more outrage, fear and demands here for a government response. Rights advocates say the surge, against the background of a long history of discrimination, is largely the result of Asian- Americans being blamed for the coronavirus pandemic, which was first identified in Wuhan, China, in late 2019. Former U.S. President Donald Trump repeatedly referred to COVID-19 as the "China Virus" and "kung flu," rhetoric that some said inflamed anti-Asian sentiment.

This story, published by Reuters, features my photography, video, and reporting and is written by Maria Caspani.

Stefany Stuber, 40, sits on her phone while her daughter Olivia Metzler,7, brushes her teeth in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

Olivia Metzler, 7, looks on in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

Olivia Metzler, 7, hula hoops in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

Stefany Stuber, 40, holds hands with her daughter Olivia Metzler, 7, in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

Stefany Stuber, 40, sits on the couch with her daughter Olivia Metzler, 7, in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

Stefany Stuber, 40, calls downstairs to her daughter Olivia Metzler, 7, in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

Stefany Stuber, 40, watches TV with her daughter Olivia Metzler, 7, in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

Stefany Stuber, 40, puts her daughter Olivia Metzler, 7, to bed in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.